7 Must-Haves for Your First Rope Night
Discover the tools, tips, and secrets to make your first Shibari experience safe, sensual, and unforgettable.
Download the Guide NowOn Perfect Match Season 3, viewers have watched Lucy Syed and Daniel Perfetto navigate the highs and lows of reality TV romance. From playful flirting and early connection to fiery disagreements and tender reconciliations. But one date gave them a rare, intimate pause from the chaos of the villa: a Shibari session.
I was their instructor that day, and while the episode only shows a brief glimpse, I had the privilege of guiding them through the full experience. It was one of those moments on reality TV that felt completely authentic! Two people truly connecting in real time.
That day, we explored Shibari - the Japanese art of rope. While often labeled as “rope bondage” on TV, Shibari is so much more. It’s about connection, trust, and presence. It’s about slowing down enough to notice your partner’s breath, the way they respond to touch, the silent conversation that happens without words.
Shibari can be sensual, meditative, playful, or artistic. In the right setting, it becomes a language for couples. One that speaks through knots, touch, and timing.
From the start, Lucy and Daniel were open, curious, and willing to dive in. I guided them through the first steps: how to hold the rope, how to tie their first knots, how to move with intention, how to let the act of tying become a gentle dance between them.
We began with Daniel. Lucy took the rope first, learning the knots with impressive confidence. I can absolutely see her tying again, she was picking it up so quickly. From the moment she started, she was fully present. Her hands moved into exactly the right positions, sliding the rope with smooth precision, tying and untying with a natural rhythm. She began with a double column tie around his wrists, secure yet gentle, keeping eye contact, and then moved into a hug tie, wrapping him in closeness and warmth as much as in technique. Daniel shared that he loved the feeling of being tied by her.
Then it was Daniel’s turn. I showed him the bunny ears tie - a beautiful harness that’s both decorative and gently restrictive. He began with slow, deliberate movements. His energy softened and grounded. His touch became what I call a “heavy cat” style (my students will know exactly what I mean)... slow, intentional, fully aware of his body and presence. He synced his pace with her breath, letting the rope become not just a tool, but an extension of himself.
Throughout the lesson, they stayed connected, not just physically, but emotionally. They laughed, exchanged glances, and focused on each other completely. Every knot was an invitation to feel more. Every wrap of rope became part of a private conversation only they understood.
In our fast-paced lives, intimacy often becomes rushed, something to “get to.” But when you give yourselves permission to move slowly, to savor every motion, every look, every breath, desire has room to build naturally. That’s when the tension grows, the delicious kind, and you find yourselves more tuned in, more drawn to each other than ever.
That’s the beauty of Shibari. It’s more than rope and knot. It’s a space where couples can explore together. It can be deeply intimate, bringing you into full presence with each other. It can be playful and curious, inviting you to discover new ways to touch, hold, and be held. It builds trust and communication, while leaving plenty of room for sensuality and joy.
For Lucy and Daniel, the ropes were just the starting point. The real magic was in the way they looked at each other, matched their movements, and shared something both new and completely their own.
And here’s the thing... you don’t need to fly to Mexico to have a date like that.
I’ve created the Ritual Shibari Starter Pack so you can bring this experience into your own home. It has everything you need to create your own sexy, intimate, and playful rope date:
🪢 Premium ropes -soft, beautiful, and ready to use
🕯 Handmade massage candle - fills the room with scent, melts into warm oil for touch
👁 Blindfold - heightens every other sense
🎶 Curated sensual playlist - sets the mood instantly
📽 Step-by-step beginner video course - so you know exactly what to do
✂️ Safety shears - for peace of mind
👜 Rope bag - to keep it all together
It’s a ready-made invitation to explore connection, playfulness, and intimacy... without the overwhelm of figuring out where to start.
If you’re ready to slow down, feel more, and ignite the fire in your relationship, you can order your Ritual Shibari Starter Pack today. Your body and your relationship will thank you ;)
